Pay attention bestie. It might be happening right under your nose.
We've all been there. You caught feelings for someone new, and you're desperate to know if they like you back. While the easiest thing to do is telling them (like a psychopath), there are subtle signs that people give when they're into you.
Next time you see your crush, pay attention to these signs. It might be what you need to know before taking the plunge :)
1. They smile when you walk in
And we're not talking about any smile. It's that cheeky one that they can't resist as soon as they see you walking through the door. And better yet, they don't want to hide it. Pay close attention when they first see you, and if their smile is super wide and their face is lit up, then it's a good sign.
2. They remember details that you told them a while ago
I can't promise that your crush will be a good listener. However, when someone's crushing on you they tend to remember small details you mentioned to them, no matter how long it's been. These details can also manifest into things you didn't tell them. For example, if they know you like fries with nacho cheese cause you always get them when you guys go out. These are signs that will surprise you because you probably thought no one noticed them.
3. They put on a show when you're around
This is the hardest sign to notice, but it is clear to other people. If your crush is suddenly trying to put on a stand up show, or using hard enough words that would win them big on Scrabble, then they're trying to impress you. For example, if your crush is typically the quiet, more introverted type but becomes the life of the party when you're around, it might be their way to impress you. Another one could be if they do research on things you're into like your major or a social cause you're passionate about just to start a conversation with you.
4. They are protective of you, even when others tease you as a joke
Super straightforward. If someone in the group is teasing you and they come to your rescue often, it might a sign that they're into you. Obviously, this may only apply if they're teasing you as a joke.
5. They are invested in your goals and accomplishments
If your crush is into you, they won't stop at small talk. A crush will stay up to date with what you're doing, especially if it's important for you. They will check in and encourage you when it comes to things you care about.
6. They go out of their way for you
Is your crush the one always offering to drive you home after the bar? Are they making time out of their day to talk to you or help you even if they're busy? Our time is the most valuable thing we have. If someone is often going out of their way to do something nice for you, it might mean they want to send a message.
7. They bring up people they like, but make sure to let you know they're available
If your crush tells you about someone they hooked up with last summer or a person they find attractive out of nowhere, pay close attention. There's a thin line, I'm afraid. However, sometimes their goal might be to make you jealous or send you signals. For example, a subtle "I feel like I'm ready to start dating" or "I found out ____ likes me. That's weird, huh?" can be enough indicators that they're trying to see a reaction from you.
As much as it sucks, sometimes the best way to know if your crush likes you is by taking the plunge and telling them. I know it's nerve-wracking, but worst case scenario, they'll say no and you can just pretend it never happened. However, if you want to wait and see if you catch any of the signs above, that's a good plan.
Figuring out if your crush likes you back is a lot easier than you think. Remember: subconsciously, their goal is to find out.
There's a difference between limerence vs crush for someone. I was thinking, what if you actually feel limerent about them, but you convince yourself they only have a crush on you? Like maybe you're really into them, but you don't want to admit how strong your feelings are so you tell yourself they probably don't feel as deeply!
There's a difference between limerence vs crush for someone. I was thinking, what if you actually feel limerent about them, but you convince yourself they only have a crush on you? Like maybe you're really into them, but you don't want to admit how strong your feelings are so you tell yourself they probably don't feel as deeply!
There's a difference between limerence vs crush for someone. I was thinking, what if you actually feel limerent about them, but you convince yourself they only have a crush on you? Like maybe you're really into them, but you don't want to admit how strong your feelings are so you tell yourself they probably don't feel as deeply!
There's a difference between limerence vs crush for someone. I was thinking, what if you actually feel limerent about them, but you convince yourself they only have a crush on you? Like maybe you're really into them, but you don't want to admit how strong your feelings are so you tell yourself they probably don't feel as deeply!
There's a difference between limerence vs crush for someone. I was thinking, what if you actually feel limerent about them, but you convince yourself they only have a crush on you? Like maybe you're really into them, but you don't want to admit how strong your feelings are so you tell yourself they probably don't feel as deeply!